In December
2002 I moved with my firstborn son to a small rural town in Victoria.
Before he
was one year old I joined the local mother’s playgroup for some much needed
support and social contact. I was
blessed to meet many inspiring, hardworking local Aussie women and to gain support
and knowledge for my new chapter of motherhood.
I connected with one woman who had two sons; the second was very close
in age to my eldest…for privacy reasons, I will call her here a pseudo name of ‘Sonia’.
Back then I
wasn’t living my life committed to Christ.
I worked as the local performing arts teacher and Playgroup was my main
way for making friends. The group of
playgroup mums all witnessed my life then being blessed to have another two
sons. My third son was born at the end
of April 2005 and it was around that time I received the news that Sonia’s
second son, the one the same age as my eldest, had died very suddenly – the cause
unknown, a SIDS case.
This was
such devastating news…I’m quite sure Sonia by this time also had a third son
who would have been around six months old…My world was rocked with the frailty
of life…my playgroup friend so similar to me…A mum with three boys had lost her
middle child!
I was
blessed to be born again not long later that year and The Lord drew me closer
to Sonia. I was so happy for her when
she later was blessed with a fourth child – a beautiful daughter. Sonia was Roman Catholic and even though I
saw her shed tears over the loss of her second son, I don’t believe she ever
blamed God – rather she was glad He was taking care of him and that she would
see him again one day in heaven!
Our
friendship wasn’t always smooth yet it was still real and even after moving
away I knew I would always be welcome for coffee at Sonia’s place.
Not long
after I became single Sonia was diagnosed with secondary cancer in the worst
stage. If my memory
serves me correctly she was advised that with treatment she could be hopeful of
having a decade with her young family…this was possibly 2012/2013. There was positive attitude because she had
survived a rare form of cancer earlier in her life when she was 17…and this was
around two decades later.
Around 2
months ago Sonia was rushed to hospital as she was having trouble walking –
they discovered a tumour on her spine and she had radiation for the week…However
they then said she only had a few months left in their opinion. I was blessed to visit her then and we hung
out together as old girlfriends…I shared with her the latest happenings in my
life around one of her treatments.
Only around
two weeks later I received the news that she was in fact in her last days. I went to see her but she wasn’t awake…however
I was able to lay hands on her and pray for her, committing her to Christ which
I felt I had to do…I also was blessed to chat again with her dad and husband.
My friend
Sonia passed away peacefully in the early hours of this morning.
Today I am
grieving.
It’s not I
am grieving without HOPE…for indeed I hold to the truth of eternal life through
Christ.
I am
grieving the frailty of life once again…I am grieving the brokenness of our
world yet to be restored as I know God’s good design did not include grief and
death.
I understand
why Jesus cried over the death of His friend Lazarus – for this is NOT the way
life should be – death is the opposite of LIFE.
When the
full number of God’s children return to Him through Jesus, Jesus will return to
fully establish His Kingdom and bring about the perfect restoration of heaven
and earth as one, where there will be NO SIN OR DEATH.
Sonia was
not even 40 years old and leaves behind a loving godly husband and three
children.
Sometimes with
the bustle of life we can forget the frailty of life and our mortality…Sometimes
we don’t want to think about it, living as if we have forever here or as if there
is no creator to ever meet one day…
Yet this is not really living and I believe I can say this, as I once lived like this. I lived solely for myself and I never felt a sense of completeness deep within…Rather there was an emptiness, a lacking.
Now even
living with the reality of the frailty of life I have peace and life makes
sense. I know the
very real frailty of my human condition has been met by my good creator and
Father in heaven…For the consequence of sin is death, eternal separation from
our Holy Creator who cannot have sin near Him.
We are born
with a sinful nature because of Adam…
Yet God,
because He is LOVE, Himself has made the way for our forgiveness and reconciliation
– He has done what we cannot do – He became a MAN and died our death so that
when we believe that Jesus Christ is God in the flesh we pass from death to ETERNAL
LIFE forever.
God has made
the way and reached out to us…
It is only because
of His goodness and grace that we are able to CONFESS our sinful nature to God
and admit our need for forgiveness and reconciliation and NEED for CHRIST! He re-births us with His blessed, perfect
Holy Spirit which is why we become changed to LIVE for HIM and will receive eternal
life.
Life is
fragile in our humanness.
Yet God has
made the way…DON’T put off being forgiven and restored, confess your sins and
need for Christ in the Saving Name of Jesus…don’t wait for your death bed, you
may not get one…and from this Ordinary Aussie Woman who knows what life is like
walking it with Christ, I urge you to call out and receive the peace and fulfillment
which passes BEYOND all comprehension…THIS is true LIFE!
None of us
deserve this awesome, free gift…this is why we call it AMAZING GRACE!
So grab a
hold of it today and be transformed through JESUS CHRIST…Just get down on your
knees and call out to God through Jesus Christ – cry out your need for
Him! For forgiveness and re-birth…for a
life to be truly committed to Him!
Peace to
you, in Jesus’ Perfect Name, Melanie J
1 comment:
Sonia faced death bravely, secure in her belief that she would be with God and comforted by the thought of being reunited with our son. I hope that when my time comes that I can face death with the same strength, faith and courage.
Thank you Melanie for writing this and thank you for being there when Sonia needed you.
Sonia's Husband
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